By Megan Jungwi

A  mother’s love knows no bounds - and Nabila Nazli’s story exemplifies the saying perfectly. In November 2006, Nabila’s New York apartment caught on fire. Inside the flaming apartment were Nabila’s five children - including her 4-week-old twin sons and her five year old daughter. She managed to save all five of her children while sustaining second degree burns to her own body.

As flames consumed Nabila’s apartment, neighbors raced to her aid but could not get into the building. Her second-story apartment window, 20 feet above the ground, made escape difficult. However, her neighbors did not give up on the family and were able to stretch out a quilt as a makeshift net in which to catch Nabila’s children. Four of the children safely dropped into the quilt and escaped the fire. Nabila dropped her month old twin boys into the net one by one; then helped her older children - aged four and ten - jump out of the window.

However, Nabila’s five year old daughter, Nimrah, was too afraid to jump. Ignoring the pleas of her neighbors, Nabila refused to leave her daughter behind. Closing the door to her bedroom, Nabila was able to keep the flames at bay a little longer. Firefighters eventually found the mother lying unconscious from smoke inhalation, cradling her also unconscious daughter. One firefighter handed Nimrah to a colleague to carry down the ladder at the window, while other firefighters carried Nabila down the stairs.

The fire burned quickly and was out within an hour. Nine firemen suffered minor injuries while taking the fire down. Nabila, however, suffered severe burns, requiring skin graft surgery and months of hospitalization. The apartment was decimated and few of their possessions made it through. Yet all of Nabila’s children survived - and that is what matters most to a mother. 

The movie Backdraft features firefighters in action.

By Khyria Cepe

Who would have thought that someone who grew up surrounded by drugs and violence could someday be nominated as the United States’ first Latina Supreme Court Justice?

Sonia Sotomayor has gone from the South Bronx housing project where she grew up to the hallowed halls of the U.S. Supreme Court. Everyone is struck with awe and pride at what she has now achieved. President Barrack Obama, whose confidence in her capabilities won her the nomination, isn’t the only person to help her get where she is now. Sonia’s mother, Celina Sotomayor, dedicated her life to her children. She ensured that Sonia and her brother Juan received the best education and upbringing she could provide.  Juan became a doctor in Syracuse and Sonia became a successful lawyer.

In a heartfelt acknowledgement of her mother’s sacrifices for her, Sonia Sotomayor was quoted as saying, “I have often said that I am all that I am because of her, and I am only half the woman she is.”[1]

Celina Sotomayor never had an easy life for herself. After her mother’s death, Celina’s father left the family, leaving her an orphan at nine years old. Even at such a young age, Celina understood the value of education, and she strived to gain as much knowledge as she could. At 17, she became a member of the Women’s Army Corps of the U.S. Army, where she trained to become a telephone operator in Georgia.  Her hardships did not end there. She eventually married but had to handle the death of her husband. Alone, she juggled two jobs to support her two young kids. Her belief in the promise of good education drove her to work hard to send her children to a Catholic school.

Now at age 82, Celina has reaped the fruits of all the hard work and sacrifice that she went through on her own to raise her children. With a daughter in the U.S. Supreme Court and a son who is a doctor, one can truly say that Celina was an exemplary mother that should serve as an inspiration to many others.

Dr. Donda West had a great investment in higher education, having devoted 31 years of her life to teaching and improving the chances of  high school students to graduate.  In 2007, along with her son, renown hip-hop artist Kanye West, she co-f0unded The Kanye West Foundation, which was established to “help combat the severe dropout problem in high schools across the country.”

Her untimely death did not stop the realization of this dream, as Kanye West continues to fulfill it. Through the foundation’s “Loop Dreams” initiative, Kaney has set forth to establish production companies within high schools.  Their purpose is to create an interest on what exists beyond the popularity of hip-hop, by challenging students to delve into other aspects of music, from creative to managerial, while developing the necessary skills to empower themselves for their future.  And staying in school is all a part of it.

The Kanye West Foundation has also launched a series of benefit concerts, “Stay in School Concerts,” which blends community and corporate involvement to achieve the common goal of improving the length that students stay in school, especially in impoverished   or high-crime areas.  The first one had taken place in 2007 shortly before Dr. West’s death.  The second one, was to be memorable.

Last December, two other mothers come into the story.   As Wendy Abrams drives her son David to school, a segment on WBEZ, Chicago Public Radio, features a story of a student at Robeson High School, Mykelle Wheeler,  who is failing his grades.  His mother, Dorothy Wheeler, thinks of offering Mykelle two tickets to a Lil Wayne concert as a reward for getting  better grades and not skipping class.   This was a moment of inspiration for David Abrams who thinks a free concert might be a good motivation for students to do better.  He tells his mother who encourages him to try. 

In a short period of time, David Abrams and friend Zak Harris organize students from New Trier and Highland Park high schools and form SHOW (Students Helping Our World) to take on the challenge, eventually getting the support of Chicago’s Mayor Daley, former quarterback of the Chicago Bears Kyle Orton and  Chicago Public Schools, who name six possible schools to be involved in the project.  SHOW members formulate the guidelines   students must   adhere to in order to qualify for the free concert tickets , including showing marked improvement in grades, attitude and attendance.  The ultimate part of the puzzle:  The Kanye West Foundation.

On June 12, 2009, three thousand students attend Kanye West’s concert at the Chicago Theatre after receiving free tickets.  A testament to the power of conviction and the fulfillment of a wish that came true on many levels for all involved—including that of those three mothers.

As the 1989 movie A Mother’s Courage: The Mary Thomas Story (produced and directed by Lanai Chapman)  famously depicts, Mary Thomas did everything within her power to keep her children safe. One day, when her youngest child, Isiah, was 12 years old, members of the Vice Lords came to her home demanding her seven sons join their gang. Mary would have none of it and fetched her sawed-off shotgun from her bedroom. She successfully asked the gang to move along.

Mary Thomas was determined to provide her children with the best environment she could. Although her children sometimes had to sleep on the floor without food or heat, Mary Thomas knew there were worse places her children could go. At one time case workers attempted to move her family into a violent housing project. Bravely, Mary went to Mayor Richard Daley to complain and tell him that she wasn’t going to go.

Although three of Mary’s children eventually succumbed to crime, her two daughters and four of her boys turned out just fine. Her son Isiah Thomas became a famous NBA basketball player who paid college tuition for over 75 young people throughout his career. Upon retirement from basketball he continued to do charity work in anti-crime and anti-poverty programs. Isiah Thomas has given his mother credit for his success throughout his life and it is easy to see why. Mary Thomas’s story continues to be an inspiration for many mothers facing similar challenges. Quite often the most courageous mothers are those who do their best to protect their children with what little resources they have.

From the Back Court to the Front Office: The Isiah Thomas Story

In her blog The Happiness Project Gretchen Rubin writes about what else? Happiness!

But it’s really more than that. During a year’s time she set forth to test in principle and theory what it takes to be happy. She delved into information available, scientific studies, historical recounts, listened to tips from famous and not so famous and put down in paper her daily adventures on the quest for happiness.

During that year, Gretchen, mother of two young daughters, also had the opportunity to put together a touching two-minute movie, The Years Are Short, about childhood and the special bond we can have with our children.  A key ingredient to happiness. 

The Years Are Short, A Movie By Gretchen Rubin

Worth watching!

Her book “THE HAPPINESS PROJECT” (HarperCollins) is due to come out in late 2009.

Gretchen Rubin is an accomplished author of several books:
Forty Ways to Look at Winston Churchill: A Brief Account of a Long Life
Power Money Fame Sex: A User’s Guide
Profane Waste: Essay by Gretchen Rubin And Photographs by Dana Hoey
Forty Ways to Look at JFK

The Happiness Project is available for preorder.

Just had to share this with you! Happy Mother’s Day!

News spread around the world like wild fire when Connie Culp, mother of two and grandmother of two, gave her first interview at the Cleveland Clinic on May 5, 2009. Connie was the recipient of the first face transplant ever performed in the U.S. and she was happy and to show off her new face.

Her “new face” didn’t just imply a new physical look, but a new chapter in a story that began a little over five years ago in Ohio, when she was just 40.

This chapter in Connie’s story begins when in a split second her life is forever changed. “There were some good times and some bad times,” she said in an interview with Diane Sawyer of Good Morning America speaking about her marriage, “and that day I knew something bad was going to happen. I never expected it to be this.” In a fit of anger, her husband had shot her with a shotgun destroying 80% of her face. Connie was left with no jaw, nose or nerve endings and with hundreds of shotgun pellets and bone splinters embedded in what was left of her face.

Two months after the shooting, Dr. Risal Djohan of the Cleveland Clinic made her a promise: “He didn’t know if he could “fix” me, but he’d try.” Over the next five years, Connie underwent 27 surgeries to rebuild her face, enduring excruciating pain. But there was something about Connie that prevailed above all: her courage, humor and positive outlook on the whole ordeal. Even when being pointed at, or dubbed as a “monster” by children, she never gave up.

Finally, on December 10, 2008 in a procedure lead by Dr. Maria Siemionow, Connie received the face of an anonymous donor—a woman of about her age and her complexion—to whom she is eternally grateful. In a 22-hour procedure, surgeons attached some of the skeleton structure, nerves, tissues and a nose to her battered face. In the Cleveland Clinic press conference, Connie recalled her first thankful words: “I’ve got me my nose!” Later in the GMA interview she remembered what it was like smelling again after five years and sneezing for the first time. “I didn’t know what part to cover, “ she recalled. Another great experience came when she was able to eat a hamburger and pizza again. So many things most of us just take for granted…

Her story is not over. She will have to undergo more surgeries to continue the restructuring of her face. In the meantime, she pledges to tell her story and campaign against domestic violence. “If he threatens you, it’s going to happen,” she commented teary-eyed to Diane Sawyer. Her husband received a 7-year prison sentence, which he is currently serving.

Connie is thankful for many things these days—especially her “extended family” in which she includes her doctors, therapists, nurses and the anonymous family of the woman with whom she shares a face. She also thanks her daughter who has been with her throughout this ordeal.

Connie is inspired by the lyrics from Tim McGraw’s song “Live Like You Were Dying: And I loved deeper , And I spoke sweeter, And I gave forgiveness I’d been denyin’” The focus of everyday worries can change in a moment and she tell us : “When someone has a disfigurement…don’t judge them, because you never know what happened.”

In this age of beauty queens and celebrities, Connie reminds us that beauty really resides within the spirit. The story of Connie Culp is one that should be read and retold.

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Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

The real answer is “PRICELESS!” 

Can one really put a value on the relentless dedication and devotion of a mother that attends to her family and household?  Is it measurable?  Perhaps intangibles such as love, nurture, and the pursuit of the family’s well-being  may not be able to be measured accurately.  But when it comes to the physical tasks that are involved in the management of a family, there is a number.

What if someone would have to be hired to do all the work a mother does?  How much would that cost?  Here are the astonishing figures:  According to Diane Sawyer of Good Morning America, in the U.S. to replace a stay-at-home mom, be ready to pay $122,000.00 annually.  To replace a mom that works from home or outside the home, take her base salary plus $76,000.00!

Information that will well worth sharing!

Mother’s Day is celebrated around the world, but not always on the same day.   If you know a mother whose native language is not English, you may want to surprise her with a greeting in her own language.

Here is a list of how to say “Happy Mother’s Day” in many languages  as well as when to wish mothers the happiness they deserve on their day. 

Argentina - “¡Feliz día de la madre!” - Second Sunday in October
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Belarus - “Шчаслiвага Дня Мацi!”- October 14th
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Belgium - “Bonne fête des mamans!” - Second Sunday in May
     More on Belgian Mother’s Day
Brazil - Feliz Dia das Mães! - Second Sunday in May
     More on Brazilian Mother’s Day
China - 母親節快) - Mǔqīnjié kuàilè – Happy Mother’s Day Festival! - Second Sunday of the fourth lunar month - “mu qin jié”
     More on Chinese Mother’s Day
England - “Happy Mothering Sunday!” - Fourth Sunday during Lent
     More on English Mother’s Day
Estonia - “Head emadepäeva!” - Second Sunday in May
     More on Estonian Mother’s Day
France - “Bonne fête des mamans!” - Last Sunday in May
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Greece - Ημέρα της Μητέρας - Second Sunday in May
     More on Greek Mother’s Day
Guatemala - ¡Feliz día de las madres! - May 10th
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Holland - “Gelukkie Moederdag!” - “Prettige Moederdag!” - Second Sunday in May
     More on Dutch Mother’s Day
India - हैप्पी मातृ दिवस! (Hindi) - Second Sunday in October
     More on Indian Mother’s Day
Indonesia - “Hari Ibu” - December 22nd
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Ireland - “Lá an mháthair faoi shona dhuit!” - 4th Sunday in Lent
     More on Irish Mother’s Day
Italy - “Auguri, mamma!” - Second Sunday in May
     More on Italian Mother’s Day
Israel - Yom ha’em sameah! - Second Sunday in May/11 of Cheshvan
     More on Jewish Mother’s Day
Japan - 母の日おめでとう Haha-no hi omedetō - Second Sunday in May
     More on Japanese Mother’s Day
Korea - “Omoninalul chukahamnida!” - May 8th
     More on Korean Mother’s Day
Lithuania - “Laimingos motinos diena!” - First Sunday in May
     More on Lithuanian Mother’s Day
Mongolia - June 1st, March 8th
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New Zealand - “Happy Mum’s Day!” - Second Sunday in May
     More on New Zealander Mother’s Day
Panama - ¡Feliz día de la madre! - December 8th
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Philippines - “Maligayang Araw ng mga Nanay!” - Second Sunday in May
     More on Filipino Mother’s Day
Portugal - “Feliz dia da mãe” - December 8th
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Romania - “Ziua mamei!” - March 8th
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Russia - ” Счастливого Дня Матери ” - Last Sunday in November
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Saudi Arabia - “Eid omm sa’eed!” March 21st
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Serbia - “Dan Majki” - 2nd Sunday before Christmas - March 8th
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Singapore - “Muqijie kuaile!” - Second Sunday in May
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Spain - “Feliz día de la madre” - December 8th
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South Africa (Afrikaans) - “Geseende Moeders Dag en al die moeders van die wereld!” - Second Sunday in May
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South Africa (English) - “Happy Mother’s Day!” - Second Sunday in May
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Sweeden - “Glad mors dag!” - Last Sunday in May
     More on Swedish Mother’s Day
Thailand - “Sook san wan mae!”- August 12th
     More on Thai Mother’s Day
Tibet - Lha-bab Duechen Festival - 22nd day in the ninth Tibetan lunar month
     More on Tibetan Mother’s Day
Ukraine - “Вітаю з Днем Матері! - Second Sunday in May
     More on Ukranian Mother’s Day
United States - “Happy Mother’s Day!” - Second Sunday in May
     More on American Mother’s Day - History
     More on American Mother’s Day - Traditions
Vietnam - “Chic Mung Ngay Me” - March 8th
     More on Vietnamese Mother’s Day

Help us grow our list!  Leave us a comment –above, under the title– and tell us when your country celebrates Mother’s Day, how do you say “Happy Mother’s Day” in your language, and share with the rest of us what traditions you have to celebrate this very important day in the life of a woman.

Mothers Day 2009 can be different, however.  Some kids might even get their act together, and order flowers for their mothers on time for Mother’s Day!  It’s great for shock value, too!  

 This video explains how to order flowers online so that you get what your mom likes and reminds you of some very important Mother’s Day tactics…like calling your mom early on Mothers Day.